Of greater importance to teaching a player to score a goal, is to show them that you have their back unconditionally. Players are kids. They're trying to find their place in every situation, everyday. When they fit in they tend to feel comfortable and thrive. Some kids want to be on the edges and this is okay depending on the person. In both cases, they all want to know their coach will support them regardless of whether they play well, behave, or represent the team well.
The line between a player and coach is drawn by the painted lines on the soccer field. Coaches can influence a player off the field, but can only beg/implore a player on the field. Consider these two options:
A. "Allison, cover #33 so we don't give up a goal"
B. "Allison, you've got your zone locked down"
Neither is a great idea because the player is distracted by the coach during the game and it communicates your strategy to the opponent. The difference is that option B is more leading and encourages the player to use their own knowledge of what to do vs. direct orders in option A.
Assume you didn't give any instruction/advice to Allison. She has a striker run past her and score an easy goal that gives up a lead. Spice up the scenario and say it's a rival town game. Your team is even more deflated to give up that lead. What do you do in these three instances:
If Allison or her teammates never learn the skill, they will always know that you believed in them and invested the the time to give them a chance. Find that balance where the sideline ends and where you can be more than a game coach.
The players need to know that on the field, it's their game.
"As a coach, board member and new SYSA VP, I've likely seen and heard a lot of what you may be wondering how to manage as a parent or player. Great kids with supportive parents make it all a "once in a lifetime" experience.