Did you receive that dreaded, “Your Daughter’s team needs a coach” email? I did, and cringed. Almost ten years later, it was one of the best invitations I’ve ever received. A dozen or so girls or boys at “U8” are a bit of an intimidating group as a parent standing there with a clipboard of names and no idea what to do when a player asks, “coach, what are we doing first?”. As a coach, you have a different opportunity. Many or all of them are there in cleats and shin guards for the first time and they are ready to play a game. They aren’t there to smash rocks and count blades of grass, although some will try. This is supposed to be fun! The first player that addresses you as “Coach” will help you understand the role you have with them. Show them the game is fun and challenging. Not all of these kids will love it. There will be a few that just dread coming to practice and games. You’ll see their parent standing in the doorway of a car’s rear seats negotiating with them to get out. It doesn’t matter to you as the coach. Find something in the team, game, or even the shape of the blades of grass, that helps that player get something from being there with you. They will remember something about you coaching them. Why is this the best invitation I’ve received? The coaching relationships built with many of the players over 2-9 years are priceless. They put something of themselves into the game, take risks on your lead, and build a bit of “who they are” on their experiences. This isn’t trivial, but it also shouldn’t be intimidating for a coach. It’s one of the great privileges of being a Parent Coach. On top of it, "the coach" turns out to get a "thank you" from his daughter, 7 years into the timeline. How do you get to this point? Check the next post. Until then, consider being a coach. One season is completely survivable and may turn out to be one of the great things you do with your child and their friends for years to come.
If your kids are new to soccer, chances are you may be too, The SYSA blog will walk through as many of the scenarios and tips we've gathered to make the most of the game and the teams they are on. I’ve coached dozens of different teams over the years: ranging from U10 to High School in the SYSA program, Mountain Club, and indoor programs in our area. I’ve tripped and stumbled through the early years and was fortunate to have an amazing group of players and families that formed something special in my opinion.
Some of what we’ll share will help you learn the game, and determine where they may want to take it. Certain players will want to “go all in” and play competitively on club teams, in middle/high school, and beyond, while others just like to play or just aren’t interested and want something else. Wherever they start, SYSA is focused on providing a place for kids to simply play soccer. Please take what I share as one parent/coaches experience. Some of my players have been gracious enough to share their side of the blog's theme: "coaching and being coached". They have been assistant coaches with the younger players for a few years now and have a new "appreciation" for how to motivate and manage young players. The "pay it forward" atmosphere the program creates is great. We want to share this with you and inspire other players to join the program in the future. |
Scott Moroney"As a coach, board member and new SYSA VP, I've likely seen and heard a lot of what you may be wondering how to manage as a parent or player. Great kids with supportive parents make it all a "once in a lifetime" experience. Archives
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